A male prostate is a source of pleasure that many misconceptions persist around, but when tapped, could open up a whole new sensual experience for your male partner. This source is widely ignored due to the necessity of anal penetration for the man, which many guys are uncomfortable with, or might even be fiercely opposed to, due to its false association with homosexuality, something that many guys still fear being labeled by. Experimenting with prostate pleasure, though, is highly advised. So, try suggesting it to your male partner, and help him look at it rationally if he seems not into it.
That act of prostate stimulation is called “milking the prostate”. Why “milking”? Because the prostate is responsible for the secretion of a fluid that makes up one-third of male semen. An orgasm that happens by the stimulation of the prostate gland is estimated to be about 33% stronger than a penile orgasm, according to sex toy designer brand LELO. Most males who have tried say that having their prostates massaged feels like the beginning of an orgasm, but it could last for a few minutes with that same amount of pleasure. So, basically, as the title suggests, we are talking about a male G-spot, or as it is often referred to, a “P-spot”. “Does the ejaculation happen instantaneously?”, some might ask. It is not guaranteed, but what is certain is that it is, by all means, faster than regular methods.
There are several ways to go about that, some are manual, while some use sex toys for assistance. Here are two of the most common practices (essential tip: ALWAYS use as much lube as possible):
1- Finger massaging:
After spreading the lube, you can insert your finger slowly into his anus. You need to keep watching his face as you do so, especially if this is your first time to do that, to make sure that he is actually comfortable and in pleasure. As I mentioned earlier, most men are self-conscious about that if they are not used to it. After inserting your finger, slide it forward carefully and gently towards his stomach, and as soon as you hit what is often described as a “round bulb of tissue,” you are there. There is something you need to be cautious about. There is a sensitive area right at the center of the prostate which you should avoid. Massage with your fingertip both sides of it in different directions, but keep it as smooth and tender as possible at first, and even when you start to make it firmer, do not take it too far, and again, keep looking at his face while doing so. That could be done in the middle of other action if you get comfortable enough with it, like, most suitably, missionary sex, or ideally, during oral.
There is a milder form to it, which you can try as a starter to test your man’s appetite for some prostate pleasure, which is outer massaging. If you slide your finger right between his testicles and his anus, you are pressing against his prostate. You can rub during oral sex, which will give him faster stimulation, and when he is nearing his orgasm, you can start giving it soft, frequent pulses.
2- P-spot massagers:
If you are still not quite sure about doing it with your own hand, whether because you are not comfortable with it, or your partner is not, yet still want to give him that sensual pleasure, you can always try the simple prostate massager. These massagers come in various shapes and levels of intensity, but they are all used more or less similarly. Some are used for outer massaging like we just mentioned in the previous point, and there are others that are made for penetration. Again, it cannot be emphasized enough that a generous amount of lubricant is a must here.