When it comes to sex, we all pretend that size isn’t important, but of course it is. “It’s not the motion of the ocean it’s the size of the boat” they say. But how about the size of the load? Does it matter? Does anyone even notice?
It would seem that they do. A quick glance at online forums will show a multitude of questions about how much women like. As with size the general consensus is that the fuller the load, the more enjoyable the experience. On a basic level, the more a man can shoot a big load, the more virile he is! Our inner cave-woman tells us the more testosterone, the stronger the man and the more able to take care of us. The online forums are full of tips on how to ejaculate more and longer (maca and lecithin are oft mentioned it seems!) and the holy grail of ejaculation is hitting the ceiling during ejaculation. Shooting a full load is, it seems an extension of masculinity, something for men to aspire to and women to enjoy. There is even a website called “biggerloads.com” which, well you can probably guess what that’s about!
But for many women, it is much more than this. Many describe enjoying the feeling, and bonding more during this moment. On a purely physical level, we all believe that a huge amount of semen equals great sex, and that the man has to enjoy it more if he produces more semen. This in turn increases the woman’s enjoyment of the experience, many saying that they feel much more enjoyment from the sensation. The strength and length is often the focus of adult films, and for many women is also visually satisfying. Many women have fetishes about how much the guy can shoot, and compare with their friends for the strength and length. They would deny this if asked though! Women associate huge loads with their own attractiveness, and ability in the bedroom to make the man feel great and produce more.
So, visually, the more the better. When it comes to normal sex the same applies. But when it comes to swallowing, things turn about very quickly. Although some women enjoy swallowing large amounts, for many the gag reflex comes into play, and they find the act of swallowing large amounts very difficult, especially if it has a strong taste. Women seem to be divided 50/50 on this subject, for some swallowing is an extension of the sex act, and a sign of lust and love. For others, the urge to spit wins all the time, and no amount of love can take the bad taste away. As with anything, everyone is different and enjoys different things, and the spit vs swallow debate is an entirely personal thing. Of course, the cleaning up isn’t so much fun, but that’s the point, isn’t it? We want great, explosive, mind blowing sex to take our minds off the mundane boring stuff that takes up most of the days. Anyway, I’m off to encourage my boyfriend to do his Kegel exercises. He’s not quite reaching the ceiling yet…